We’ve come so far and have learned a lot along the way, but by no means is our marriage perfect. We still have our ups and downs, but who doesn’t? I could share the usual tips we’ve all heard like “don’t go to bed angry” or “always say I love you” but I wanted to give you guys something more than that. Today I wanted to share 5 things I’ve learned from 5 years of marriage.
- Open communication is a must: I can’t ever keep problems or frustrations to myself, so I’m very glad Mike and I are able to easily communicate about things going on in our lives. It’s also important so you know where things stand when it comes to decisions on things that may suck to talk about, like finances and stuff, because as a married couple you have to make decisions together, not separately. We’re learning this even more now since we have our own house and new things to take care of.
- Date nights are always necessary: When you’ve been together for a long time, it’s easy to let old traditions fall by the wayside, but in order to keep the love strong, you must keep date nights going! Get dressed up, turn the phones off, do whatever it takes to make date night be just about the two of you and no one else. Take time out to get gussied up and prepared for a romantic night together and it will feel like your first date all over again!
- Have outside interests: I started blogging just not long after getting married and I’m so glad I did. I’ve always been very introverted and blogging gave me something to do on the side and helped me meet more people, which is what a shy person like myself needed.
- Don’t forget to keep the love alive: Just like date nights but wayyy more important.. If you two don’t maintain that physical as well as mental connection together, then what’s making you happy in this marriage? This is something Mike and I continue to work on since we both lead very busy lives but it’s a top priority for us. Don’t forget those butterflies you felt in the beginning and how much you couldn’t stand it to be away from that person. Keep that flame going and make sure you let each other know, in more ways than one, that you still find eachother as irresistible as you did when you first met.
- Always make time to laugh: Without laughing, I don’t think we would last. You need humor to keep going, just like you do in a friendship. Mike has this ability to get me coughing from laughing so much because of his off-the-wall humor and it reminds me why I’m so glad that I married him.
I’m very happy that we bought a house within our 5 years, which is something I was so afraid of not happening in time since we were renting for so long. I don’t know what the next 5 years will bring but I know that since the house has been locked down, I’m looking forward to starting a family and finding out where that takes us. Any of you guys married and have tips to share? I’d love to hear them!
What are the lessons you’ve learned from being married/together with someone for a long time? Share yours below!